Are Your Legs Buckling Under the Pressure?
Are Your Legs Buckling Under the Pressure?
The weight of the world is on your shoulders and it can be as heavy or as light as you make it. You broaden your shoulders over and over again to accept more of the world. Soon your legs start to buckle, and then you smash your knees to the ground. You ask yourself, well what the hell happened here.
It is time to quickly re-evaluate. The last thing you want or need is to stay on the ground.
YOU ARE IN CONTROL!
First separate the things you can control from the ones you can’t. Even if you can’t control the situation, recognize that you can respond in a way that feels right for you.
Before I moved to Florida I took on everyone’s baggage. People came to me to help out and I rarely said NO. I also did other’s projects or took on their responsibilities. Why you might ask, because I liked it my way or thought my way was more proficient. I was always on the go and had zero time for me and the things I wanted to do.
When I moved to Florida I was in for a rude awakening and some withdrawal. I always felt that I needed to be needed. Nana broke her back and I was having heart palpitations that I was in Florida and she was in NY. Yup you know it, got on a plane and came to NY. Ran, Ran, and Ran.
Then my Mom had surgery and I couldn’t get back to NY, and the guilt of it was eating me alive.
It was finally when my legs buckled and my knees hit the ground bloody and bruised that I stopped and asked what the hell I was doing. I hit a bump and now needed to figure out what I wanted to do for ME!!!
A novel idea…right? Well it was about time. I was tired of the guilt, the BS and putting myself last.
This is where I learned the word NO again. Remember two year olds, all they say is no! This was me in the beginning. I was learning who I was and what I wanted out of life. What I have learned from that experience is I had to figure out what I liked, loved, didn’t like and what I wanted to run from. I walked around for months with a little note pad in my pocket. Learning about myself and what I wanted.
I learned that I can control myself, and my reactions. I realized there are many circumstances that I cannot control and the same goes for others attitudes and actions.
Today if the weight of the world is on my shoulders it is because I choose to have it that way. It is usually because I am pushing myself on a project that I want to get done.
Then life throws you curve balls. Recently my mom had open heart surgery. During that time I had very little sleep and pushed myself to my limits (broadened my shoulders). That is where I wanted to be. It is all about choices. It has since settled down and she is on the road to recovery so I can now regroup and regain my balance.
Saying yes to every function and every person will burn you out and leave nothing for yourself or anyone else in the long run. Make choices about what you really want to shoulder. The weight of the world isn’t really on your shoulders unless you allow it. Have others accept responsibility and consequences for their own actions, you do NOT need to. Take responsibility only for you.
Written by Tricia
I am a lover of coffee,chocolate, wine, most things sci fy, being present, my life and most definitely the hubby. Author, teacher, intuitive healer, and experiencing life. Intuitively guiding others to their next step. Find me at http://www.triciadycka.com
It’s so important to know when to say no — and to make all of our choices with our eyes wide open. Great reminder of necessary self-care, Tricia!
Absolutely Tracie it is about self care, learning to say no and creating boundaries that resonate within .
Great article…great reminder…I like that you point out sometimes we do “broadened our shoulders” but it needs to be our choice. I have been practicing no for a long time and it makes such a difference in the balance of my life.
Great post and reminder about personal choice and responsibility . If we put ourselves bottom of our list, we’ll hardly male it to the top of anyone else’s. I’m also guilty of doing it myself as I believed my way was best only to find that it became an expectation of others since I was so good at doing it, that I should carry on then. I woke up and starting saying NO and showing them how to do it themselves.