Before You Judge Me

Posted by on October 19, 2012 in Belief systems, Get Off the Sidelines, Ken's Blogs

Before You Judge Me

Do you consider yourself to be judgmental? Do you find yourself looking at other people thinking that they’re being judgmental?

As I started writing this post, I thought I should look up the word “judgment” before I wrote about it. defines judgment as follows:

Judgment: the ability to judge, make a decision, or form an opinion objectively, authoritatively, and wisely, especially in matters affecting action; good sense; discretion: a man of sound judgment.

So let me ask a different question. Do you have any big dreams of something you’d like to accomplish in your life? Or big dreams of something you’d like to do with your life? I love the line from a Trooper song “if the world is all screwed up, re-arrange it”. Do you ever stop to think that maybe, just maybe, you could do something that would make a big difference in your life, in your community, or in the world, and then catch yourself thinking, “oh, I could never do that?” Of all the kinds of judgment that exist, I find that this is the saddest. We judge ourselves more harshly than we ever judge others. I have never looked at anyone with the thought that they could never be an author, an artist, an inspirational speaker, or something else. But for some unknown reason, we often judge ourselves that way.

Ironically, if you look at the definition of the word “judgment” above, I guess you can’t even say that you’d be judging yourself. After all, do you have the authority to tell yourself that you could never accomplish anything? Do you have the wisdom to make that claim? Is it good sense that you should sit back and not take action toward accomplishing your dreams?

Well, I was once no better than anyone else at this. I remember writing in several posts and speaking in several presentations that my “big audacious dream” is to eradicate DIS-ease and do it in my lifetime. Then that Inner Fiend jumps in and says things like “that’s a pretty big dream for a small town boy” and “yah right, YOU think you can accomplish that”.

But you know what the funny thing is. The more I mention my dream to people, the more support I get. Sure there are a lot of people that don’t think that this can happen, but there are also a lot that think it can. And the more conversations I have with people, the more I realize that it won’t be ME that gets us to the point of eradicating DIS-ease, but that doesn’t mean that I’m not a part of bringing this dream to fruition. This isn’t something that I can accomplish alone, but it doesn’t have to be. Other people have the same dream. And many of them are taking steps in the direction of their dreams.

And you know what? It’s working. I hear more and more stories of how people have changed their lives and changed their outcome. Spontaneous remissions from cancer and other DIS-eases are well documented. People changing their diet and having the symptoms of rheumatoid arthritis (RA) disappear is a common story. I have a friend that removed herself from a stressful job situation and told me that almost immediately her RA symptoms had virtually disappeared.

I have several colleagues that have similar beliefs and are doing their part to help people. I am in the midst of developing a program that will help educate people about the factors that contribute to their health as well as easy changes they can make to their daily activities to help them improve their overall health.

What’s my big audacious dream again? — to eradicate DIS-ease, and to do it in my lifetime.

Before you judge me, I ask you to consider the following:

  • There was a day when it was known beyond the shadow of a doubt that the earth was flat – thank you Christopher Columbus.
  • There was a day that we knew that the Sun rotated around the Earth – thank you to the astronomers / scientists that enlightened us.
  • There was a day when there was no television. And then when we got television, it was only in black and white.
  • There was a day when there were no telephones. Please don’t forget that when you talk to relatives in Australia.
  • Do you remember when our only light sources were fire and candles? Thank you Thomas Edison for your repeated efforts to create the light bulb.
  • There was a day when the only modes of transportation were walking and by horse. Thank you to the automobile pioneers and to the Wright brothers for pursuing their dreams of flying.
  • I remember in 1994 when a professor wrote the letters “www” on a blackboard and almost nobody knew what the world wide web was.
  • I remember the days where there was no FaceBook, no twitter, no youTube. Seriously, Social Media hasn’t been around forever?
  • I remember the days when records were replaced by 8-tracks, 8-tracks were replaced by cassettes, cassettes were replaced by CDs, then MP3’s and so on. How do we listen to music nowadays?

Needless to say, I can go on and on. There are so many situations where the beliefs of the entire world turned out to be limited or incorrect, and where inventions changed the way our world worked, virtually overnight.

So before you judge me, pause for a moment.

And when I suggest to you that we can eradicate DIS-ease AND do it in my lifetime …. how do you judge me now?

More importantly, do you have any big audacious dreams? Is your world all screwed up? Will you help re-arrange it? If not you, then who? If not now, then when?

Namaste, Ken

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Written by Ken

Ken Jaques describes himself as a Health Care Evolutionary, Community Builder, and Speaker. True healing begins when we treat root causes instead of just masking symptoms. Diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis (RA) in 2008, Ken has experienced many facets of the health care system. As “the only patient who ever lost their hair on this low of a dosage of chemotherapy” – as spoken by his rheumatologist – Ken has been on an amazing journal of self-discovery, a journey of true healing. In his blog, Ken shares stories of how his beliefs have changed over the past few years, and how they are still changing. Is it possible that our bodies can heal themselves? Do we really have to live without hope after we receive a chronic illness diagnosis? These are the types of questions that Ken encourages people to ask themselves as they embark on their own physical or emotional healing journey.

Ken is creating a platform to connect People, Patients, Practitioners, Partners and Promoters, enabling a collaborative effort to help shift the focus on health from I-llness to We-llness. Check out the pilot at

“When ‘I’ is replaced with ‘we’, even I-llness becomes WE-llness” ~ Malcolm X


  1. Well said. One of the remedies for judgement is forgiving ourselves for buying into those misbeliefs. Light to your amazing dream!

    • So true Linda, forgiveness is such a key, starting with forgiving ourselves. Thanks for commenting.
      Namaste, Ken

  2. Ideas and dreams are powerful. No need to judge. Just move forward with action and positive surroundings. As soon as you can “see” the dream. . . you’re already there!

  3. Great Article again Ken!
    Too true, we do hold ourselves back.
    Good luck and I hope to watch your journey.

  4. I agree, our judgements of ourselves are usually the harshest.

  5. I can relate Ken. It’s never too late. At 54 I started taking guitar lessons. A year later I campaigned to get elected as a Councillor in our Municipality. If you can eliminate the doubt, make the commitment and believe you can make a difference, the obstacles soon fall away. Next week I have the honour of performing with the Mayor at the Farmers Market. No way I would have ever thought this a few years ago. It didn’t hurt that I had fantastic support from my wife, kids and friends. Livin’ the dream! I count my blessings every day. thank you Ken.

    • John,

      Thanks for taking the time to comment. I love your comment about having the support of other people. Even if the answers are inside you and we can all step outside our fear, it is easier with support of family and friends. Keep up the great work, and thanks for the reminder that it’s never too late for any of us.

      Namaste, Ken

  6. You go Ken!

    We need you. Keep shifting the filters for people, more and more will shift into viewing their lives differently and once again, we’ll all move forward.

    Love n light

    A Mom On A Spiritual Journey

    • WOW Sarah,

      Thank you SSSOOO much for the kind words and support. I’m loving this journey and it’s helping me shift my own beliefs as I go, especially when I get feedback like this.

      Huge hugs, as well as love and light right back at ya,

      Namaste, Ken


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