Feeling Confused?

Posted by on October 5, 2012 in Belief systems, Get Off the Sidelines, Ken's Blogs

Feeling Confused?

Am I the only one that feels like they have a lot more to offer, but doesn’t know exactly what to do to bring things into fruition?

Over the past several weeks, I have written several different posts about making a difference, and encouraging people not to feel too small to make a difference. I believe I live that every day. Some days I’m focused on learning and other days I’m more focused on sharing my beliefs. I often engage in conversations with people where I encourage them to examine and shed any limiting beliefs that they might have. I’ve had speaking engagements, I’ve written many blogs, I’ve been on radio interviews, and I’ve even prepared a youTube video. Several people have told me that they think I am making a difference.

I cannot tell a lie. Every time I have a conversation with someone and they have an ‘a-ha’ moment, I find that it makes me feel really good. Or when I share a FaceBook post that gets lots of comments, that also makes me feel great, and that I’m making a difference for folks in that moment.

Sounds like I’ve got it all figured out, right? Truth is, I think I do have a fair bit of it figured out. Yet I also find that I’m living my life in a state of confusion. I feel like I have so much more to offer. Through my journey of healing from an autoimmune dis-ease diagnosis, I feel that I have figured out many of the things that are making us sick. And I believe that I’ve figured out a lot of the things that we need to do to prevent dis-ease in the first place, and how to heal from many types of dis-ease once we get sick.

YES, I honestly believe that we can figure out the root cause of many dis-eases and I also believe that we can heal ourselves from many of the dis-eases. Well, not only have I learned a lot during my healing journey, I have met many people that have the same or similar beliefs. That sounds like a story to be shared, doesn’t it?

Oh yeah, that confusion thing. There are many days that I just wish I could wave my magic wand and instantly know exactly where all this is going. Will I continue to have conversations within my own community, and that be as far as this goes? Will I create a documentary sharing my beliefs? Will I be part of a team that does something similar? Will I speak all over the world to share my beliefs? Wouldn’t it be great if I just KNEW?

But I don’t. So I really only have one option. All I can do is wake up every day and move myself forward. Maybe I’ll start creating video logs (vlogs) and post them on a weekly basis. Maybe someone out there will see a post and reach out to collaborate with me. I’ll keep taking those baby steps forward.

Over to you? Do you have similar feelings of confusion? I’m pretty sure the same message applies to you. Keep going. Keep taking baby steps every day. You’ll look back in time and realize that the accumulated effort of all those baby steps turned into something meaningful. But if you don’t take any of the baby steps, you’ll be in the same state of confusion a year from now.

You know what’s funny? When I write that previous paragraph offering my thoughts to the reader, it seems very obvious. Yet, when I look at my own situation, somehow it doesn’t seem to be enough. Really?!? It’s the best advice I have to offer others, and yet it doesn’t seem to be enough for myself? Wow! Do you do that? I find that we’re far harder on ourselves when working through our own situations than we are when we’re trying to help others.

I believe there’s good news for those of us that are in a state of confusion. I have spoken to many people who have worked through transformational times in their lives and they’ve virtually all described going through the same type of period. They look back and realize that they had to go through that period and that they learned a lot of lessons during that time. They recognize that they truly needed to go through the period, and when they came out the other end they were a much different and much happier person.

That’s great news for me, and hopefully for you. Last week someone told me that they thought I was almost at the end of this stage. Trying to hide the “Thank God” look from my face, I politely thanked them for their comment. And in that moment I reminded myself to just keep taking the baby steps.

It does feel like I’m getting there. But I do still wonder if it’s going to be a personal movie, or a feature length documentary :-).



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Written by Ken

Ken Jaques describes himself as a Health Care Evolutionary, Community Builder, and Speaker. True healing begins when we treat root causes instead of just masking symptoms. Diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis (RA) in 2008, Ken has experienced many facets of the health care system. As “the only patient who ever lost their hair on this low of a dosage of chemotherapy” – as spoken by his rheumatologist – Ken has been on an amazing journal of self-discovery, a journey of true healing. In his blog, Ken shares stories of how his beliefs have changed over the past few years, and how they are still changing. Is it possible that our bodies can heal themselves? Do we really have to live without hope after we receive a chronic illness diagnosis? These are the types of questions that Ken encourages people to ask themselves as they embark on their own physical or emotional healing journey.

Ken is creating a platform to connect People, Patients, Practitioners, Partners and Promoters, enabling a collaborative effort to help shift the focus on health from I-llness to We-llness. Check out the pilot at www.myHealthyCommunity.ca.

“When ‘I’ is replaced with ‘we’, even I-llness becomes WE-llness” ~ Malcolm X


  1. We need to remember it is a journey, not a destination. Then we can start to enjoy the view along the way instead of hurrying to get somewhere. It’s all about experiencing, and learning, new things every day, every mile, along that road. It’s in getting there, not getting there! -Steve/wiz.

    • Well said Stephen, thank you for the reminder.
      Namaste, Ken

  2. Thank you for Sharing this Ken. We have all been in chaos at some point or another during a transition. It is normal to feel uncomfortable when we are stepping outside our normal rut in life. Being able to enjoy every moment of our unique journey to self discovery is vital. You are an amazing person just the way you are! We are all right where we need to be right now! Nothing more and nothing less ; ) x o A

    • Thanks Andrea,

      Your words are right on the mark, and a great reminder to me and others. So glad you took the time to share.


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