Paradigm Shifts for Healing and Empowerment
Earlier this year while writing my first book proposal, I found myself getting stuck multiple times. I felt stressed, overwhelmed, inadequate- you name it and I probably experienced it. One day, while speaking with my mom, she saw the toll it had been taking on me and mentioned how she wished the process would happen more smoothly for me. I smiled and said it would work out however it was supposed to. In my mind however, I remember half consciously thinking, “That’s the story of my life. Things rarely go smoothly.”
It wasn’t until a few days later while out for a jog that I fully recognized the implication of that thought, and how it truly was the story of my life. I then began to contemplate why that was and by the time I’d finished my run, I had postulated a rather simple conclusion, it was a result my own conditioned paradigms. It was my own long held belief that things never came easily to me, which in turn, produced those circumstances in most areas of my life.
I, for one, absolutely believe in the law of attraction, and films such as The Secret and the teachings of Abraham, as channeled by Esther Hicks were great for bringing awareness of these teachings to the mainstream. I also believe however, they often overemphasized setting goals and intentions and visualizing them into reality without guiding people to clear out old, self-limiting beliefs first.
Facing and clearing old thoughts, baggage and emotions is a practice people often shy away from, as it can be uncomfortable to look at the things we’ve cautiously buried deep in our subconscious. However, it isn’t until we begin working through these self-limiting thoughts and beliefs, with as much loving-kindness as we can muster for ourselves, that real change and growth is possible and this is where the real mining for gold can happen. Through systematically removing these long outdated thoughts and beliefs, we make room for the seeds of our goals and dreams to blossom.
Here is a simple practice I find to be very beneficial, which anyone can do. First, sit with a notebook and pen (or laptop) and begin thinking about the areas of your life that you feel are lacking. Next, once you have identified a few of these areas, write them down, leaving some space between each one on your list so you can jot notes. Start with maybe one or two of the items on your list a day and begin to go as far back in your memory as possible. When do you first remember feeling the specific lack or limiting belief in your life? Were you a child, teenager or adult? Was there one or more specific incidents that left you feeling lacking or inadequate in that particular area? What were they? Do the emotions that come up surrounding those incidents have a shape or color? If so, what are they? Again, go as deeply into this as you can. Once you feel like you’ve thoroughly identified the circumstances leading up to these presently held, ask yourself if they really are true. Are they still serving you or are they keeping you from moving forward in those particular areas of your life?
These are just a few generic questions to help you get started in the process, but it’s vital that you allow yourself to be brutally honest with any of the self-limiting thoughts that come up and recognizing that they no longer serve you and need to go. While acknowledging and bringing awareness to these thoughts and beliefs is a great first step, and one which you will experience results from, it is of great importance to still go one step further.
If you are ready to release the thoughts and beliefs that you now recognize as hindering your dreams and goals, I highly recommend learning and implementing the practice of EFT. EFT is in and of itself another article entirely, but here’s the link to EFT founder Gary Craig’s Website: http://www.garythink.com/ This site has a ton of extremely valuable content, including plenty of videos to walk you through the EFT process, and it’s all free!
p.s. after implementing the aforementioned practices myself, my proposal came together very quickly and I signed with an amazing literary agent who is currently shopping my proposal to major publishing houses 😉
– Chris Grosso