When Will I Be Good Enough?

Posted by on March 30, 2012 in Belief systems, Get Off the Sidelines, Ken's Blogs

When Will I Be Good Enough?

Do you ever ask yourself that question? What do you get for an answer?

Will you be good enough once you lose 10 pounds? Would you be good enough if you were a little prettier or a little more handsome? Would you be good enough if you were a little smarter? Or if you were a little richer? Or are you good enough now?

It seems to me that many people walk around thinking and worrying about what they aren’t and don’t take the time to appreciate themselves for what they are. Are we conditioned to believe that we’re “not quite perfect” and that we need to make ourselves better? Do we judge ourselves harshly?

If someone in your life talked to you the way you talked to yourself, you would have left them long ago. – Dr. Carla Gordan

What if we started from a belief system that said “I love myself for exactly who I am. I’m perfect exactly the way I am. THIS IS ME. My life has been providing me with the lessons I need, and I will continue to learn from them. I have strengths and weaknesses, just like everyone else. There are some things I don’t do as well as others, and there are things that I do better than most. And at the end of the day, who cares anyway? I simply love myself and am grateful for being exactly who I am today.” If we started each day with that thought process, do you think a lot of our problems would go away?

What do you think?

This is not to say that we don’t have a lot of growing and evolving to do. I believe that each and every one of us has a unique gift, something that makes a real difference, something that we are so passionate about that we would do it even if we weren’t paid for it. And I think we need to take action every single day to help us STEP into our own greatness, to be all that we can be. I just think the process of growth would be a lot easier if we cut ourselves some slack. If we start from a position of accepting ourselves and not judging ourselves, then we’ll be in a much better frame of mind to continue on this journey of life that we’re on.

Have you ever taken the time to reflect on the accomplishments that you’ve had in your life?

I actually sat down last week and prepared a list. I remembered that I had many school accomplishments, sports accomplishments, business accomplishments, service accomplishments. If you go through the exercise (will you :-)?), you’ll probably find the list to be a lot longer than you thought it would be. I found it very uplifting to go through the exercise. If I was good enough back then to have those accomplishments, then why aren’t I good enough now to have more accomplishments. I may not know what they’re going to be yet, but there simply must be more to come. Maybe I should take a STEP forward toward something else I’m passionate about, and there just might be some more accomplishments to add to my list long the way.

I’d like to share a personal empowerment story. I am passionate about empowering people to STEP into their greatness. I see so many people that are loaded with magnificence, yet many of them are afraid of taking that first step. Or they take the first, then shrink back into their old habits. I started a blog just over 3 months ago to begin sharing my thoughts and questions, encouraging people to take that first STEP. I had no idea if anyone would read my blog, I had thoughts that I’d send it out to friends and they’d politely read one or two stories. I even went through the “I’m probably not good enough to have anyone care to read this” routine. And this week, my blog was read in the 50th and 51st countries of the world (thank you to readers in Namibia and Cameroon – and for those wondering how many countries there are, Wikipedia says there are 196). I added that to my accomplishment list, and I did it proudly. And as I did I reminded myself that this wasn’t my ego getting the better of me, this was simply celebrating an accomplishment. If someone had told me 3 months ago that my blog would be read in over 50 countries of the world, I’m sure I would have laughed out loud. But it happened.

When will you be good enough?

Guess what, you already are. STEP into your greatness.

If you’d like to share an interesting good enough story, send it along to [email protected].

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Written by Ken

Ken Jaques describes himself as a Health Care Evolutionary, Community Builder, and Speaker. True healing begins when we treat root causes instead of just masking symptoms. Diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis (RA) in 2008, Ken has experienced many facets of the health care system. As “the only patient who ever lost their hair on this low of a dosage of chemotherapy” – as spoken by his rheumatologist – Ken has been on an amazing journal of self-discovery, a journey of true healing. In his blog, Ken shares stories of how his beliefs have changed over the past few years, and how they are still changing. Is it possible that our bodies can heal themselves? Do we really have to live without hope after we receive a chronic illness diagnosis? These are the types of questions that Ken encourages people to ask themselves as they embark on their own physical or emotional healing journey.

Ken is creating a platform to connect People, Patients, Practitioners, Partners and Promoters, enabling a collaborative effort to help shift the focus on health from I-llness to We-llness. Check out the pilot at www.myHealthyCommunity.ca.

“When ‘I’ is replaced with ‘we’, even I-llness becomes WE-llness” ~ Malcolm X


  1. Lovely blog post, Ken!
    I really feel that people should be teaching this in schools to kids of an early age, so hopefully future generations won’t grow up with such critical ideas of who they should be. I believe its incredibly important – infact, I’d even go so far as to say that if we all truly loved ourself for who we are, perhaps there would be no more war, no more fighting….
    Keep up the good work!
    We are a band and are writing about similar subjects, if you fancy keeping in touch – http://www.reverbnation.com/unsunglilly
    🙂 Much love and well done on your 51 countries! 🙂 x

  2. Thanks so much.
    {Editor: After this blog post, the following link to a similar message was posted as a comment. After checking out the story, this comment was approved as it definitely helps to get the message out — “You already are good enough”. Note that the Editor has yet to watch the movie.}

    • Thank you so much for reading as well as your comment. Accepting ourselves as being “good enough” already is something that many of us need reminders of now and then, and the more people that are in the community reminding others, the better.
      Your efforts are appreciated. Namaste

  3. Excellent post. Very true, we find that we’re never good enough but that can change when we decide to look at the world differently, see the options that are truly available to us, and stop living based on other’s expectations and beliefs. That is the journey which I am on right now, and journaling.


    • Thanks very much for the comment, it is very insightful. I think many of us are on this journey right now, and I wish you all the success in the world with yours. I quickly checked out your blog as well. Well done. Namaste

    • Manuela,
      Thanks so much for taking the time to respond. I wish you the best and look forward to hearing more about your journey.


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