Do you ever hear people use the phrase “there are no coincidences”? What are your thoughts?
Over the past year, I have read many books, blogs and tweets from people suggesting that there are no coincidences and that whenever a coincidence happens, we should stop and take notice. It might be a sign in nature, maybe a bird or an animal crosses your path in an unexpected way and it makes you stop and take notice. Or maybe three or four people, including total strangers, say almost the same thing over a short period of time and you think that it’s weird that you keep hearing the same messages. Or the same person that you haven’t seen in a long time crosses your path three or four times in a couple days. It doesn’t seem to fit, you think, and then you just ignore it. It might even be that you say something to somebody or have a thought cross your mind and you wonder where that thought came from. Again, you think that’s just weird and you ignore it. But it keeps happening. Do you ever hear people use the phrase “there are no coincidences”? What are your thoughts?
I have become a believer in synchronicity, and every morning I wake up with the intention of expecting a synchronistic event to occur that day. And right after I established this belief, the strangest thing happened to me. I was on a bike ride with my wife and daughter and when we reached the half way point of our journey (you know the one, it’s exactly the farthest point between your starting and ending point), my bike had a flat tire. I didn’t have a repair kit with me and we were about 3 or 4 kilometers from home; since that wasn’t too far I decided to walk the bike home. After travelling about a half kilometer I remembered a story I had read about “expecting miracles” to happen and I laughed out loud that it would be a miracle if my bike tire was fixed and I could ride my bike home. It seemed like a weird thought to cross my mind. As I continued to walk, I passed the house we use to live in and the new owner of that house, who was outside raking leaves, asked how far I had to go. When I told him I had a few kilometers to go, he told me he was hugely into cycling and could fix my tire in five minutes. When I told him I used to live here, he took me into the house, showed me the changes they had made since they bought the house, and then fixed my tire. I’m sure it took less than five minutes. Well that may not have been exactly how I would have seen my “expecting miracles” thought to unfold, it sure seemed synchronistic how everything came together at that precise moment. But wait, there’s more. As I was riding home – laughing to myself just quietly enough so that anyone driving by wouldn’t think I was crazy – I came upon my wife and daughter who were trying to fix their own broken down bike. I was able to fix the bike and off we went on the rest of our bike ride. Aaaahhh, more synchronicity.
As I look back on my life, I realize that there have actually been a number of synchronistic events that have occurred and they have helped shaped my life through stages of transition such as job change, relationship changes, and even health changes. While I didn’t think about it at the time, I now find that I take notice of these synchronistic events far more than I ever had in the past and I usually take the time to write them down in my journal. It has been truly amazing how many times I have shared some of my synchronicity stories and someone has said, “oh my gosh, you’re not going to believe this but the same thing happened to me just the other day,” or something similar. I believe that these meaningful coincidences are real and by paying attention to these synchronistic events, we find answers to some of our unanswered questions and meet some of the most interesting people.
So when that person you haven’t seen for a while drives by several times over a couple day period, why don’t you stop them or call them and tell them how many times you’ve seen them drive by? I have done that several times and there almost invariably seems to be something that I learn that it seemed like I just needed to know.
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